i understand that feeling. it's interesting to see something that really resonates with me; i dont think i've ever read any other comic or media that deals with complex family relationships like this (usually its more simple, like YARGH PARENT IS EVIL AND I MUST KILL THEM? or parent is OK and thats that)
anyway i also thought to myself, "i never want to be like my mom". also grew up poor living on food stamps and with a single parent, it was tough. i see maybe thats a cause for lola's general "care-free" kinda attitude, like when youve been through so much then everything else is like whatever
i think that's probably partially a root-- i think her nonchalance also comes from a fear of being like her mother and, more so, a social pressure to not be typecast as someone belligerent in any possible interpretation.
even though the circumstances are difficult, i'm glad i could make something that you can relate to.
hey i just found out about your comic recently and i love it so much and i care about sugar and lola a lot and its the only webcomic i get really excited for updates about
*takes notes on lolas outlook on life irt mom issues* hmm yes interesting
for real though im so happy theres finally a piece of fiction where there is a dysfunctional family situation and the mother is the one who's abusive. its always the dad and if it is the mom too it rarely goes deeper than "The parent is Bad!"
so yea this is really important to me right now. i think youre doing a really amazing thing for people like me who did not in any way have a typical family situation. thank you
this page hits me really hard in the face every time i read it.
i also defend my mom a lot-- even though i was in her custody she never gave me the time of day. i've never had a b-day party until i went to college.
yaaauuuuugh im feeling weird and angry ugh im such a hot mess
an odd, specific sense of shame from admitting you weren't treated right as a kid. like you've long since internalised that it must be your fault. this sort of makes me understand the cigarette shame a few pages back, too.